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Trauma and the Bears – A Fable

Trauma and the Bears – A Fable

Recovery from trauma starts with acknowledging the existence of bears. It requires the involvement of a safe tribe. It necessitates the telling of our story and the healing of our wounds. And it requires action to keep us safe from further bear attacks.

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Why the symptoms of trauma make sense

Why the symptoms of trauma make sense

So this was me, then: a tick-box list of symptoms demonstrating how screwed up I was. ‘Loser!!’ it screamed at me, casually. The more items I ticked, the more it screamed: ‘Bigger loser!’ Forty items – tick, tick, tick: ‘Biggest loser in the world!’ And so shame sat like a heavy puddle of tar in my stomach.

Trauma affects us in multiple ways, and delineating its ‘signs and symptoms’ like this can be utterly devastating.

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What grounding is and isn’t

What grounding is and isn’t

What is grounding? What is its purpose and aim? What if a particular grounding technique isn’t actually very effective at grounding? Do we confuse the outcome of grounding with a list of techniques?

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Trust is built

Trust is built

FacebookTwitterLinkedInInstagramYoutube‘Trust me,’ says the therapist. And everything in me wants to curl up and away, disappear some place in my head, and never come back. It is an understatement to say it, but those two words are a massive trigger. Because ‘Trust...

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