‘It takes a tribe to heal trauma’ because evolutionarily we need people to feel safe again. But where do we get the help we need?
It ought to be the most obvious thing in the world, that as a society we support those who have suffered trauma – especially chronic childhood trauma. But unfortunately that’s not the case.
Part of the reason for this is that, in Joanna Moncrieff’s words, we ‘medicalise misery’ – we insist that people (like me) are mentally ill, as if something has gone wrong with our brain, rather than ‘traumatised’, which is a natural, in-built, logical response to something going wrong in our experience (for example, abuse).
Getting help within the medical model for the impacts of traumas therefore harder than it ought to be. We are often forced to participate in systems of care which don’t always feel very caring, and pursue labels and diagnoses which may (or may not) provide access to ‘treatment’, but which may in the process increase our stigma and shame.
My own pathway, out of necessity, has been through paying privately for psychotherapy. It has been a means to an end but it cannot be the ideal for us as a society. There are no easy answers at the moment, but this section provides a few pointers and areas of discussion.
What should not be in doubt – but which, because of the nature of the trauma we have suffered, is often the biggest thing we doubt – is that we are worthy of care and compassion, and of getting the help we need. Sometimes our biggest battle is being willing to battle for what we do not believe we deserve – the right help.
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