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Recovery from trauma

Recovery from trauma is not easy. It’s a long-term process. But that doesn’t mean to say that it’s impossible. First and foremost, we need to understand how trauma has impacted the brain and body.

Understanding Trauma

Trauma impacts us. It’s supposed to. The impact of chronic, childhood trauma is absolutely devastating. It can affect every aspect of our life.

But we need to understand the function and purpose of traumatic symptoms. We’re not mad. Our brains have not malfunctioned. We are not faulty, and damaged, and beyond hope.

Instead, trauma affects us because it’s in our nature for it to. We react to trauma – what we call being traumatised, or post traumatic stress disorder or even a dissociative disorder – because it’s part of our evolutionary neurobiology: our brains and bodies have adapted to trauma to help us survive it if it happens again. The symptoms of trauma are supposed to help us.

And, yes, our body and brain’s response might mean that we survived – perhaps by the skin of our teeth – but when we’re impacted by trauma, we rarely thrive. That’s because trauma adapts us to a life prepared for danger or threat, not a life of peace and calm and joyful, fulfilling relationships.

Understanding that the symptoms of trauma are our best attempt to survive, however, can help us to realise that, however awful and overwhelming they are, they’re there for a reason – and that reason is NOT a fault in our brain. And that gives me hope for healing. If our brains have adapted to danger, we can also get them re-adapted to safety – a process that we could call ‘recovery’.

I believe in recovery from trauma – not as wishful thinking, or a form of toxic positivity, but because it makes sense. The brain and body are wired to heal – it’s what they are doing all the time. It’s how we survive and manage to live so long. So in recovering from trauma, we’re not actually asking the brain and body to do anything other than what is literally in their DNA to do. We just need to know how to help the process rather than hindering it.

Recovering from trauma isn’t easy; it’s not a single event; and in one sense it’s never over. I prefer instead to talk about it in terms of ‘heading north’ – a general direction of travel rather than a specific destination. I am more recovered from trauma than I used to be. And every day, even if I’m crawling on hands and knees, I’m heading north.

There are many ways to facilitate this recovery journey. A principal one is psychotherapy, but everything that promotes safety and relationship and a calm body and mind also help. To be traumatised means that we live in a constant state of threat, even when that threat isn’t real. To recover from trauma means that we recalibrate our brains and bodies to experiencing safety. What we eat, when we sleep, who our friends are, our engagement with therapy, our protection from abusers, the practice of mindfulness, noticing joy in our surroundings … all of it is part of it.

Browse my resources to explore some of these ideas and to learn how to head north towards a safer, calmer life of post-traumatic peace.

My ‘Mental Health and the Body: Treating Trauma‘ course may be particularly helpful.

Resources

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Webinar #1: Working with Trauma in a time of trauma

Webinar #1: Working with Trauma in a time of trauma

How can we help survivors of trauma recover from trauma even in a time of collective trauma? What are the dynamics of trauma that play out in all of our lives when faced with threat, and how can we manage our responses and those of our clients using the trauma traffic light model? This is the focus of this webinar where I present a human, compassionate and empathic response to trauma recovery, with a blend of insights both from personal experience and from the clinical literature and neuroscience research.

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Webinar #2: Working with Trauma that has become stuck

Webinar #2: Working with Trauma that has become stuck

How do we help survivors of trauma get unstuck from the debilitating symptoms of trauma, which sometimes hold them in a vice-grip of powerlessness, hopelessness and despair? Why do stuckness and trauma seem to go hand-in-hand? Join me as I look at the neurobiological underpinnings of stuckness and how we can help survivors of trauma be empowered to move safely beyond suffering.

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Webinar #3: Working with trauma triggers and flashbacks

Webinar #3: Working with trauma triggers and flashbacks

Trauma symptoms are characterised by triggers and flashbacks – unresolved implicit memories which cause immense distress and suffering and rarely resolve spontaneously. So how can we deal with them? Why do they occur, and what purpose do they serve? There is a life beyond trauma, and there is hope for living without flashbacks and triggers. Join me as I look at the nature and purpose of triggers and flashbacks, and what is needed to help them be resolved.

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Webinar #4: Working with trauma memories

Webinar #4: Working with trauma memories

Do we need to remember our trauma in order to recover from it? Do we have to talk about it, or is it best not to, to avoid being retraumatised? What about traumatic or dissociative amnesia? How do you heal if you can’t even properly remember what happened? Join me as I look at how to process and metabolise traumatic memory safely and effectively, and how to resolve the ‘corruption of memory’ that being traumatised represents.

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Mental Health and the Body: Treating Trauma

Mental Health and the Body: Treating Trauma

Trauma is a supremely physical phenomenon, manifesting not just in our emotions and mental states, but also in our bodies. Trauma results in significant emotional distress and fear-based dysregulation, but also in long-term bodily inflammation and sleep disturbances, which in turn inhibits the processing of traumatic memory. And so it makes sense that our bodies also need to be involved in recovering from trauma: this course shows you how.

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Podcast: #16 – Trauma needs a solution

Podcast: #16 – Trauma needs a solution

Trauma teaches us that we are helpless to act in the face of danger. But recovery from trauma involves learning to act, learning to take steps, learning to start to find and create the solutions. In this podcast, I talk about the symptoms of trauma and how they drive us towards a solution.

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Podcast: #11 – Recovering from developmental trauma

Podcast: #11 – Recovering from developmental trauma

Recovering from trauma takes time. In this podcast, I look at how we often missed out on developmental stages during childhood, and how we have to learn what we were not in a position to learn as children - not least our ability to regulate our emotions, which isn’t a sign of character deficiency, but simply the loss of opportunity.

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Podcast: #14 – Falling down, getting back up again: my journey over the last year

Podcast: #14 – Falling down, getting back up again: my journey over the last year

Sometimes life doesn’t go to plan. In this episode, I discuss the circumstances that led me back into therapy, the return of dissociative parts of the personality, and how I'm rising again after being knocked (and literally falling) down.

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Podcast: #12 – What does recovery from trauma look like?

Podcast: #12 – What does recovery from trauma look like?

Recovery from trauma is a journey, an orientation, a direction, not a specific location. Just head north - where you're at is less important than which direction you're headed in. In this podcast, I discuss why we can feel that recovery is impossible, how recovery perhaps doesn't look as we imagine it to, and how society needs to help with 'public transport' to help us on our way.

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Podcast: #2 – Recovery is possible

Podcast: #2 – Recovery is possible

Is recovery possible? I'd say it is … based not just on my own personal experience, but on the fact that it’s how our bodies and brains are designed by default. Often when people don’t recover, it’s a problem with the therapy or the ‘treatment’, rather than a problem with a person. In this thought-provoking podcast, I bring hope for healing.

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Podcast: #7 – Can we heal?

Podcast: #7 – Can we heal?

Is recovery from trauma and abuse - resulting in dissociation and even a dissociative disorder - possible? That's the subject of this podcast where I talk about the vulnerability of hoping for good things, the difference between correlation and causation, and the difference between hoping for and planning for.

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Podcast: #10 – This is my new life

Podcast: #10 – This is my new life

When we have suffered trauma and pain, our brains find it hard to experience joy. But we need to put ourselves in the right place to find joy, and we need to cultivate it. In this podcast I talk about a life-transforming trip from 2012 and how the big breakthroughs are built on the backs of daily small breakthroughs.

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Trauma and the bears – a fable

Trauma and the bears – a fable

Recovery from trauma starts with acknowledging the existence of bears. It requires the involvement of a safe tribe. It necessitates the telling of our story and the healing of our wounds. And it requires action to keep us safe from further bear attacks.

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Three challenges of trauma: why recovery is so hard

Three challenges of trauma: why recovery is so hard

We don’t fail to heal from trauma quickly because there’s something wrong with us – because we’re stupid, because we enjoy being victims, because we’re mentally ill, because we’re lazy, because we’re weak. Trauma is difficult to heal from. It’s meant to be.

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Marginal gains

Marginal gains

If I said I could help you improve your life by 1% you might not be very interested. Especially if your life is filled with pain, suffering, dysfunction and struggle, you might think, “A 1% difference isn’t going to do any good! I need a 100% difference!” That’s how I thought for a long time.

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What triggers you to joy?

What triggers you to joy?

As trauma survivors we all know what it's like to be triggered by reminders of danger from the past. But do we know what our joy triggers are? And how does paying attention to what we enjoy help turn down our sensitivity to danger?

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