A heartfelt, emotive course on the neurobiology of shame, its overlap with trauma, and how to work effectively with it in the therapy room. With both left-brain neuroscience and right-brain personal narrative, this course uniquely looks at how shame manifests first and foremost in our bodies, and how to work with shame without exacerbating it. Join me on the journey from crippling shame to living with the courage to be imperfect.
“Loved this course. Carolyn’s honesty and openness in sharing her story is inspirational. The length of each section was perfect to be able to study in bite-sized chunks and to allow for reflection after each part. Value for money excellent. Really easy to use. I will use what I have learned both in my work with clients but also in my own personal journey in defeating my own shame gremlins – thank you Carolyn.”
“I found this course to be comprehensive in all aspects of mind, body, emotions. I have worked with clients for years on toxic shame and this course taught me things I had no idea about before and which have transformed the quality of the therapy I now provide to clients suffering with toxic/unhealthy shame.”
“I am very impressed by the quality of this training. Carolyn’s honesty as a survivor is to be admired and respected – she has created a course which is of great benefit to others dealing with experiences which have left an impact on them. As soon as I started the course it was benefiting my practice – changing my knowledge and understanding.”
“The best thing about Carolyn’s online training is that I could give myself the time and space to pause the session when I needed, to take notes and to process both the content as well as my own experiences of how I relate to and experience shame. I also really liked the option of breaking up the training into manageable chunks over 2-3 days. I loved Carolyn’s tone and pace, it conveys warmth and integrity and the ‘recycling’ of lived experience into such important work is something to be highly respected. Thank you.”
Shame can be the single biggest hindrance to making progress in therapy, recovering from trauma, building positive relationships, and moving forwards with life. Shame stops us in our tracks – because, from an evolutionary neurobiology perspective, it’s supposed to. Shame is the handbrake on action in order to keep us safe: rather than utilising active strategies to overcome our obstacles, shame causes us to huddle up, crouch down, freeze, and make ourselves invisible. It has a protective function, but one which can end up as a self-reinforcing loop: a vicious cycle.
I know this, because my life has been crippled by shame. Join me on this course where I combine the latest neuroscience insights with my own personal narrative of a journey towards ‘unshame’.
Shame manifests as the often unconscious belief that there is something fundamentally wrong with us as people – that we are ‘bad’. We often cannot define that badness, or even determine its cause. It just is. And that’s what makes shame so difficult to deal with. It lurks below the surface of consciousness, infecting everything we do and everything we feel, and often remaining frustratingly out of reach. It is not unusual for people to struggle with shame for years and even decades, nullifying progress that they may be making in other areas.
For survivors of child sexual abuse, shame is a kind of universal, identifying characteristic. And for survivors of other kinds of trauma, shame is never far away: if not shame at what happened, then shame at how we responded. Shame and the freeze response go hand-in-hand. And yet shame has its roots in our evolution and is not an accident. It has a protective function, so, if approached in the right way, could it actually be our friend?
This course will look at shame from this unique perspective: of trying to figure out what shame is trying to achieve for us, and then working with it to shift it. We’ll look at the good, the bad, and the ugly of shame, and how it manifests especially in a therapeutic setting. Aimed principally at counsellors and psychotherapists, but also relevant to other helping professions as well as people recovering from trauma, this course will take a trauma-informed, neurobiological approach to the issue of shame and look at how transformation really is possible.
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