The sixty-four billion dollar question – unique answers to the question of who funds therapy
I mean that you cannot herd up a group of ‘dissociative identity disorder people’ or ‘dissociative survivors’ or whatever other collective phrase we invent, and spray-
I reckon working with dissociative identity disorder must be at least a little bit scary. And when we’re scared, we all have a tendency to become ever so slightly black-
HOW ARE SURVIVORS OF DISSOCIATIVE IDENTITY DISORDER TREATED?
People treated me as less than human – far, far less than human – and that treatment, that objectification, that scandalous disregard of my human rights, my feelings, my desires, my choices, my sense of self and dignity and respect … that is what has led me to having this fractured, splintered series of mental/physical states that comprises being dissociative identity disorder.
So we’re on dangerous ground if we lose sight of the fact that the dissociative identity disorder person in front of us is a unique human being whose sense of humanity needs to be restored.
And it is from that viewpoint that I consider the sixty-
In Utopia, it would be a simple trip to the empathic, well-
Ah yes, Utopia.
If this were a TV programme, there would be a jolting screech and we would be transported suddenly and traumatically back into here and now by a patronising voiceover: “Er, no … reality is the current state of knowledge and understanding today in this country, and in the NHS in your region.”
And let’s think for a moment about that issue of uniqueness. What I need from the NHS might be very different from someone else. At times in my life I have been in a wheelchair, but I have not been for some years now. But I know people with dissociative identity disorder who are bed-
BACK TO THE BIG MONEY QUESTION. HOW DO WE ACCESS TREATMENT?
I have had very little help from the NHS. My doctor had never heard of dissociative identity disorder but she didn’t have a power thing going on and was willing to learn from me. That learning hasn’t yet got as far as her being able to even spell dissociation, but she prescribes me whatever I ask for, and we seem to have a unique, respectful relationship. A few years ago as bank accounts were dwindling and the realisation set in that this was going to be a long-
But I am unique. I am in a unique relationship with my (two) therapists. I am in a unique relationship with my GP. I am in a unique position in terms of what is or isn’t in my bank accounts. I am not saying that other people don’t have similar circumstances, but I have yet to meet anyone else who was abused exactly as I was within the same relational milieu, with the same outcomes, the same ensuing life story, the same partner/spouse, the same current life situation.
So when people ask us, “Should I try to get the NHS to fund my therapy?” what can we say? What is your unique position? What is your unique set of characteristics and traits and experiences and aspirations and difficulties, and what is the unique situation of your GP and your local NHS Primary Care Trust? What is the unique set of circumstances that is your battle, and are you able to marshall your resources towards the battle with the NHS?
I have carried a lot of guilt for paying for my own therapy. There are things that my husband and my kids have gone without because of it. Sometimes I feel that maybe I would feel more as if I am ‘proper dissociative identity disorder’ (that elusive and nebulous status) if my condition were validated by a diagnosis by an NHS Consultant Psychiatrist. Sometimes I feel that I would feel better about myself if society in the form of the NHS took some responsibility for what happened to me and were putting it right. Sometimes I feel angry that 16 and 17 years olds can be paid £30 a week to stay in education (which will ultimately benefit them anyway) while I even have to pay for my prescriptions and receive absolutely no help at all from the Government for the effects of a multitude of crimes committed against me.
We listen in agony sometimes to the stories people tell us of their treatment within the NHS, of dehumanising assessments and dissociative care plans which serve only to destabilise them further and significantly lower their self-
But there are the people who cannot afford it and they have no choice but to battle. And some succeed. I cannot measure the cost to them, because after all they too are unique. When I hear of people after many long years securing treatment funded by the NHS at the Clinic for Dissociative Studies, I rejoice. Can I suggest to everyone who contacts us or asks us what to do that this is the right course of action? What of the issue of people who have therapy funded for 12 months and after 12 months they must ‘prove’ that they need it to continue? How does that leave the attachment to the therapist, with this Damocles’ sword of funding hanging over their heads? How can we really seek wellbeing if gaining some degree of it will potentially remove the support and the attachment relationship that we need in order for wellbeing to be a permanent and not a temporary state? I imagine the threat of ‘termination of provision of services’ would cause a huge sense of internal ambivalence. At least it would for me, but then again I am unique … I suspect that 12 months of ambivalence is better than 12 months of nothing.
Is the NHS populated with power-
When I talk about how I am relieved that I have avoided the battle with the NHS, people tend to hear it one of two ways. There are those, many of whom email me afterwards, who are grateful for what they see as the validation of the choice that they too have made. People may think that those who are paying for private therapy do so because they can afford it, but I’ve come to realise that many cannot afford it. And for some there is huge guilt at the sacrifices they are having to make in other areas of their life, especially when there are children involved and their self-
Then there are people who feel that I am somehow saying that it is wrong, or foolish, to pursue NHS funding. That is not at all what I am meaning. I applaud the courage and tenacity of people who have often fought for years to secure funding. Some do it for themselves, some do it for their partners or other family members. Every person that secures funding helps not only their own situation but also raises awareness in the NHS as a whole, and that is a laudable achievement for which everyone should be grateful. My caution about the NHS route is simply because unless people realise that it is going to be a battle, the wounds from it can be overwhelming, and my heart aches at the thought of anyone who has a trauma background similar to mine being wounded again in any way. I guess I just wish it did not have to be so. When people caution against the NHS route, it comes out of a desire to protect people from further hurt, not because it will inevitably be unsuccessful. People do fight and do manage to secure treatment, and often it is the people who give everything to this battle because they know it is their only option who are successful. There are distinct advantages to self-
So everyone is unique. Every person who works in the NHS is unique. Every Primary Care Trust, every mental health department, is unique. And everyone’s battle for treatment will be unique. That’s why the sixty four billion dollar question remains unanswered.