Three Quick Quotes and a FREE resource – 3 February 2021

Firstly, a heartfelt thank you for the extremely encouraging and supportive comments following the release of my new blog and podcast last week ‘Falling down, getting back up again: my journey over the past year’. One evil man acted his evil upon me … and so many caring, compassionate people have responded with love and empathy. I’d say that’s a win for us.

If you have no idea what I’m talking about, please read it here or listen to it as a podcast here – and find out why I’ve been flying somewhat low on the radar over the past year.

Now, onto this week’s TQQ – providing three quotes, a snapshot of my week, and a free resource. If you enjoy this email, please forward to friends and ask them to sign up here.

‘See’ you next week!


three quotes

“Post-traumatic stress represents our biological inheritance as human mammals. After trauma, our survival instincts keep the mind and body riveted on the past. The visual images play and replay. Our senses become heightened to detect potential danger, and we react to sounds, sights, and other human beings in anticipation that they will be threatening. All our emotional and physical reactions become heightened as well; we might find ourselves reacting more intensely or, conversely, not reacting at all. Suddenly, we feel excruciating shame, lose the capacity for speech, or comply when every fiber of our being wants to say, “No!” Often, we either become overwhelmed by what we sense or feel, or we are inexplicably numb and everything is an effort. Sometimes, there is no predicting how we will react to anything.”

Judith Lewis Herman
Trauma and Recovery

“From control of the body, the focus on safety progresses to control of the environment. The acutely traumatised person needs a safe refuge. Finding and securing that refuge is the immediate task of crisis intervention. In the first days or weeks following an acute trauma, the survivor may want to seclude herself in her home, or she may not be able to go home at all. If the perpetrator of the trauma is a family member, home may be the most unsafe place she can choose. Crisis intervention may require a literal flight to shelter. Once the traumatised person has established a refuge, she can gradually progress toward a widening sphere of engagement in the world. It may take weeks to feel safe in resuming such ordinary activities as driving, shopping, visiting friends, or going to work. Each new environment must be scanned and assessed with regard to its potential for security or danger.”

Carolyn Spring

“We can’t judge courage by the external.

A lot of people, looking at me standing up in front of a hundred or two hundred people, assume that it requires a lot of courage, because they imagine themselves doing the same and the fear of public speaking kicks in. I look at survivors who battle to get out of bed on a morning to go to therapy, and I know that that’s what true courage looks like.

So much of the time while I was in that phase of therapy and life, I felt a failure. I felt pathetic. I felt ridiculously inadequate and undeserving of respect. After all, what kind of person lies in bed on a morning, too terrified to get up?

Now I look back and I am full of admiration that I got up and went to therapy. And equally I admire every survivor who does the same.”

this week’s free resource

‘A flashback is a sudden, involuntary re-experiencing of a past traumatic event as if it is happening in the present.’ Debilitating, overwhelming, even shameful – post-traumatic flashbacks can make our lives hell (and something I’ve battled again this last year, so it feels more relevant to me than ever). This week’s psychoeducational poster is designed to help, and you can download the resource here.

snapshot of my week

Hello Mr Heron! I passed him this week while I was out walking Peps. He was so still, I thought he was a statue … just so much poise and serenity, so still, so elegant, such focus waiting for his dinner … I had a vague thought that maybe I should try to emulate him. But I decided that realism and self-acceptance were the way to go instead. 😉

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