Three Quick Quotes and a FREE resource – 21 January 2021
Welcome to the first of our new midweek emails providing inspiration and free resources straight to your inbox. Each week we’ll deliver three quotes, a snapshot of Carolyn’s week, and a free resource. If you enjoy this email, please forward to friends and ask them to sign up here.
This week’s FREE resource is a PDF version of our ‘Emotional Resource Guide’ (below) which, since first being published in 2016, has helped countless trauma survivors and those who support them. A hard copy version is available via Amazon here.
“Because the symptoms and emotions associated with trauma can be extreme, most of us (and those close to us) will recoil and attempt to repress these intense reactions.
Unfortunately, this mutual denial can prevent us from healing. In our culture there is a lack of tolerance for the emotional vulnerability that traumatised people experience. Little time is allotted for the working through of emotional events. We are routinely pressured into adjusting too quickly in the aftermath of an overwhelming situation.”
“The tendency to try too hard is a bit of an occupational hazard for people in the helping professions … most of us are in this field, at least in part, because of a strong interest in alleviating the suffering of others. The motivations underlying this interest can be complex and personal, and it is important that each clinician come to some understanding of what her own motivations are so that when an enactment occurs, it can be placed within the context of the therapist’s personal, lived history.
We have all had the experience of finding ourselves in a therapy in which we are doing more than we should, we are too eager, making multiple attempts to engage the individual, yet working a good deal harder than the client. The problem with this state of affairs is that it ends up undermining the therapy process. It takes over, takes pressure off the individual, making it far too easy for patterns of avoidance to continue unchecked, ultimately serving to disempower (Herman, 1992) the client.”
“Working with trauma is working compassionately with the suffering of human beings – suffering in which they have been so powerless and alone that they have not been able to process it. Working with trauma is about coming alongside them in that suffering, and first of all merely tuning into that suffering. And that’s hard.”
this week’s free resource
Life after trauma is often characterised by triggers, flashbacks and oscillating states of emotional distress. These are natural consequences of the effects of trauma on the brain, but people suffering them can feel as if they are either ‘mad’ or deficient in some way. The simpler reality is that trauma is traumatising!
Now in its second edition with additional content, this essential Resource Guide brings together a number of articles and concepts which are designed to help people learn how to take back control over their traumatised emotional and bodily states. It’s a lifebelt for people who experience frequent debilitating, even life-threatening distress, and also a resource for professionals working with this client group.
You can download the resource here.
snapshot of my week
We’ve had lots of snow in Buxton since Christmas – pretty and also pretty annoying!! – but this was a bit of a magical Saturday for me: the first time I was able to walk far enough to enjoy these woods since breaking my ribs before Christmas. Peps was very pleased to stretch her legs properly too!
After some time off work at the end of 2020, I’m back at my desk again and busy writing new content – look out for some new stuff (which will also give context to my absence!) which will be published in the next couple of weeks.